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Graduate Things

9 Aug

The thoughts in most students minds while in University are usually that they will find lucrative job offers immediately upon completing. As a former student take it from me, I actually believed I would have companies and organisations lining up to take me aboard their money making ships.

You can imagine my surprise when I was suddenly thrown into the world of unemployed youth and Government Job freeze. A world where I keep reading about how 3000 youths apply for a job that is looking for ONLY22 people. How the Government let’s off 150 people because the Nation’s budget can not allow the pay of all of them. A world where every employer is only looking to hire someone who has 3-5 years work experience.
It makes me wonder exactly how one is supposed to get that work experience when no one is willing to hire them in the first place. Most people I know have at tops 6 months experience because of the various internships and industrial attachments they had. So are we going to forever be overlooked and left out because we are so fresh our of College that we don’t even know how much we are worth?

I had my graduation of the 24th of July, 2014 and at this point all I feel if fear. Fear that I may stay at home longer than I planned. Fear that my best years are passing by and that my once fresh and sponge like brain will dry up by the time someone decides to give me a chance to prove myself. So my “Best Graduating Student Award” hangs in my room and makes me laugh each time I look at it because it makes me think “what was the point of all that hard work and all the sweat if I am just going to spend my days at home?” Most of the people I talk to keep asking where it is that I am working and I guess it is coming as a shock to them when I explain that I am just at home, still living with my parents.

The biggest shock or let me say the thing that hurt the most is seeing people who graduated some 2 or 3 years earlier than me complaining about how they can not find employment in the country and how opportunities are not coming up. Most keep talking about the high levels of corruption and nepotism in the workplace and as I have no idea if it’s true or not I really can not comment about it.

But I have learnt quite a few things in my six months after writing my last University paper.

  1. Life isn’t as easy after University as most students imagine.
  2. You will regret wasting your student loan money on shoes and booze once you realise you should have been putting some into your savings account.
  3. Being the best graduating student doesn’t mean you will be the first person to get a job.
  4. The people everybody looked down on will most likely be the most successful.
  5. The Government doesn’t exactly have the best interest of everyone in mind. At times they just want to make themselves richer.

But maybe that is just me. I have a friend who believe that positivity and what you think you will get is most likely what the universe will give you. So as I lie here in my bed feeling a bit depressed and scared for my future, I will be positive and believe that I will get a 5 figure salary job and I will live in the city with the man of my dreams and my dream home…balcony, herb garden, garden swing and all.
I mean if we can’t even have part of the dream, what’s the point of even waking up in the morning right?



Race – How the world showed its shallowness.

9 Aug

There is only one race, the human race.

There is only one race, the human race.

“There is only one race: The Human Race.”

They say people have a tendency to hate or be afraid of the things they do not understand…things that are different. That sentence would have stuck if this were the 1300s.

Looking at the world now, with all the technological advancements, medical discoveries and how everything a person needs to know is just a “google” away, it is surprising and appalling to see that there are people who still judge others because of the colour of their skin.

The fact of the matter is that when we all bleed our blood is red.
Now unless some people bleed out chocolate or poop out diamonds and rainbows I don’t think anyone has the right to be cruel and be a part of the shallow people that think racism is “normal”.

I love how children in nursery behave, they do not see brown or black or white…to them all they see is friendship and someone who they can be on a see-saw with. The problem comes in when the parents who believe that their children should only mix or be friends with those they share skin colour with. Stop trying to drag the human race back to a dark era.

Be part of the movement and think of the big picture. Racism breeds hate and gives way to violence. All of which just brings us back to the never ending cycle of hate crime and more bloodshed.


So What if I touched it?

6 Aug

You know how at times you just want to do something crazy that people do not expect from you? Well that happened to me today when I was in town about to go for lunch with my sister.

There are these old messed up payphones in the streets that I have always been seeing around but never paid that much attention to for as long as I could remember. Well today as I was walking by I suddenly got the idea of taking a picture near one and pretending to be making a call.

I got so excited about the whole thing and begged my sister to quickly take some fun pictures. Obviously she agreed and we had a laugh about it all. The other people in the street well let’s just say they looked at us like a couple of crazy people. (Screw them). It made the experience that much more fun anyway.

Being the sharing freak that I am I immediately shared the pictures on Facebook and while some of my friends found it funny that anyone can still use a pay phone in this day and age others found it “gross” and “disturbing”.

Okay fine, maybe the thing hasn’t been used in like decades or whatever but come on it was a cool picture.


The Return Of The Blogger

4 Aug

Hello people of the blogosphere, after months of being MIA I am happy to say that I think it’s time I came back.

School was rather stressful and with little to no access to the internet it was almost impossible to blog. But now I am back and hope I can still do this.

I am not sure the direction in which my blog will go now and part of me kind of wanted to start a new one. Fresh start and all. But for the time being I will stick to my very first blog, kind of hard to let it go.

To all my followers I hope my new posts will still be “entertaining” to you and that you continue leaving your thoughts and comments like before.

Forever a blogger,

Of House Keepers, Personal chefs, Trainers and Stylists

11 Feb

Having K 6 ( six Kwacha)  to my name safely hibernating in my account, which is roughly close to a Dollar and being in university with millions of kwacha debt in student loans, I find myself thinking “Will I ever live the life I dream of?”, “Am I ever going to taste foreign foods like prawns, venison, lobster or maybe something a little more dreamy… caviar?”. With one more year left until graduation and the fear of the future growing more each day especially with the upcoming publication of examination results this 15th, I keep drifting away from reality and keep getting stuck in day dreams where my account balance puts J.K .Rowling’s to shame.

After spending most part of my vacation away from school either blogging or reading novels and pretty much just trying to forget about university while most of my friends are spending their hours of the day getting attachments and internships in big companies, I can’t help but wonder if I am maybe being a little too carefree and careless with my life.

I wake up each day, which if I might add is getting harder each day when I do not have that much too look forward to, and after having breakfast and showering the list of things to do drops to about only three possible enjoyable activities;  spend the whole day on the internet, spend the whole day reading novels or spend the whole day in the TV room watching cheesy romance movies, fashion programs, cook shows and anything else that is showing.

I know what some of you might be thinking, believe me I think it all the time. I bet my last remaining money that you would tell me something like, “Stop being such a depressed little stuffed animal and do something about it then”. If you thought about anything that even remotely sounds or means anything close to that, then congratulations, you have officially joined the team. Now before you get all excited, just in case this is the first time you are a part of anything, (especially a team), just know that being a part of this team means you are accepting that you are a good for giving advice critic and probably a busybody too (I think). Okay maybe not. It doesn’t really matter because this post is supposed to be about house keepers, personal chefs, trainers and stylists.

Being born in Zambia, Africa and before you even ask, NO I do not own a lion and I do not know anyone who does…I once saw them at a zoo though, at least I think it was a zoo. I can say I grew up knowing most of the stuff I know from reading and sometimes watching TV, being an indoor couch potato and all ,but then again, I am guessing that is how everyone learns most stuff about other peoples cultures, right?

The bad thing about all this, TV and books is you are never really sure if everything you are seeing is the truth. I say this because, I once had a friend on Facebook form Greece and he never believed me each time I told him I was in Africa. He said, he did a Google search of Zambia and the only images that were coming up were of children with malaria, Malnutrition, the crazy Sub Sahara AIDS levels, Black outs and all other depressing stuff. Though that might be the case with like most of the country (RURAL ZAMBIA), I guess I expected at least something positive…I don’t know wishful thinking I guess.

So I have this dream now of making my country shine a little more but that’s still a work in progress…obviously.

I really do not know if the things I spent watching during the better parts of  my teen years were true, you know all those shows that had “ordinary” people living their lives but where everything looked like it was heaven. I say this because any world where I have a personal chef preparing me gourmet meals that will get me salivating just from smelling them, I get to be the one who gives away second had clothes to “the less fortunate” and the house is never dirty because there is always someone who dusts every surface in the house ..Goodbye sneezing, common cold and flu or whatever it is people catch from dust (I guess I should come clean and say I am a lazy bum).

But at this moment, sitting in front of my laptop and after typing all this, I feel like my life couldn’t be more perfect (Its like typing these words woke me up). I know that makes no sense after I typed over 700 words trashing it.  But I have realized something, life is in the simplicity of things. How you smile and enjoy it no matter what hurdles are in your path.

You may not have that mansion you always fantasized about , the body you always dreamed of , the ultimate job you wanted and even the chefs, trainers, stylists, maids and anything to make you (by you I mean me) even more of a lazy couch muffin than you already are. But there has to come a point in ones life when you have to just sit back and enjoy all the little things you have no matter how little the may seem,, it can be something as small as remembering that you had breakfast in the morning, have a roof over your head, you have a family and friends who love you, your health is still intact, you just got accepted into university and above all that while there may be hundreds of people who did not wake up today, you were given another shot at life to enjoy it further more.

The Assassination Of Cupid

6 Feb

die cupidFirst of all, before, I even begin I would  like to say that just in case this blog post is full of typos and grammar that makes you wonder if I ever went to school or if i am normal, it is not my fault.

For starters ever since we (students of a certain university) went on vacation, I have rediscovered my love of books and the internet so I rarely sleep or eat as much my mother would like. Unhealthy and a bad habit I know but it can not be helped. I would say it is insomnia but that would be a lie because mostly it is by my own doing that I do not sleep.  I just do not want to sleep, simple and straight forward. And thanks to my new best friend coffee, I don’t. Unless I absolutely have to.

All this leads me to spending each day looking and walking like a zombie and since I spend most of my time in my room on my laptop, no one gets scared by my appearance. Which is all really good, because the last thing I want is to be scaring people. And well we can blame the bad “postmanship” (I hope that exists) on that for now.

Okay, now I have forgotten where I was going with all of this.

Right, back to the issue at hand, love, romance, valentine’s day, cupid and the many other things that give me a headache (not all the time, but enough times). Okay enough of the hate, right? stay with me this post actually has some sense in it in the end.

You know how they say “You can pick your friends, you can pick your nose but you can not pick who you love”, like it is some miracle and action you have no control over? Well I guess there is some sense in that nonsense. You can see it in the way we end up with the most unlikely people, people we never thought we could br friends with, let alone lovers.

I would like to think that every person has their dream guy or girl, then how do you explain ending up with someone who is the total opposite of that? The answer I think is cupid. That winged bastard likes to play cruel jokes on people and probably even laughs about it as he watches, like a really bad episode of Jerry Springer. A while back I used to think he does his evil magic with that cute bow and arrow of his, but now I have reason to think he upgraded his arsenal and bought a freaking machine gun and a bazooka. No one is same. No one. try blocking a shot a bazooka with a bullet proof vest. Its like people just keep falling in and out of love, like it isn’t bad enough that celebrities do it now it is becoming a trend everywhere and with almost everyone. Its disgusting. I say this because how else can we explain what happens on Facebook these days?

exhibit A

You log into Facebook on monday and see a changed relationship status from “single” to “in a relationship with____”, first thought that comes to your mind, “wow, someone is going out with toothless wonder Jane”. Everyone comments and likes and it’s a good monday I guess as far as Mondays go.

Tuesday comes and it’s all love updates from the new couple, you know the type “I miss him”, “I love him”, ” blah blah”, (I am a culprit with such..love updates all the time like a love struck teenager. I am so ashamed admitting this so do not laugh)

Then the good stuff starts to happen by thursday when the relationship status changes to “its complicated”, by that time you get out your popcorn because you know its drama time soon. unnecessary drama if I might add.

Sunday and it “went from its complicated to single”, what the hell? and then you have updates like ” all men/women are the same”, “F### this, I am too cute to be crying over a spineless jerk” and my personal favourite “fu Screw love, I am tired of trying”

Three days later and its the start of the cycle..again.

Now from this you can tell that something is wrong, obviously cupid has been shooting so many people at a go that, by the time you are done you would have gone through the cycle like a hundred times. And if you are the “has sex with every boyfriend” type, by the time it is boyfriend #25 you will be smuggling midgets in your Vag “Unmentionable”.

exhibit B

Dating two or more people at the same time, why the hell do you need to do that? Who do you think you are, Casanova? I am not going to go into religious territory, because lets face it, that is how wars begin. i am just going to say, umm “AIDS IS REAL” and “I hope you like herpes”. Two-timing douche.


And before we put the blame on the guys and probably start a war of the sexes, note that females can be just as guilty too. (Case closed)

Cheating Girl Friend[1]

And what is worse is still seeing him/her even when you freaking know he is with someone else, if it is someone you know then I think you have issues. Go see a shrink or something. Back stabbing freak. (Make sure the knife is clean at least before you use it)

You give love a bad name.

From all this we can see that, the only way to save the world is to go on a non stop search for the winged fat little guy and its off with his head. Okay I realise I am being very mean right now, and probably going to be arrested for putting the idea of assassination in people’s heads but please you have got to agree with me on this one. CUPID HAS GOT TO GO.

Boredom Can Be A Major Cow

29 Jan

So spending your day in boxer shorts, a tank top and covered in a blanket and watching the food network, BBC lifestyle or Fashion Tv is not the way to spend a three month vacation. Sure it is so amazing for the first 8 days but after that, the boredom starts to set in. Vacation time is supposed to be fun and time to rest, relax and do all the things you do not have the time to do when you are in school or during working hours.

I am like the last person to give advice on having fun because I am about as much fun as watching grass grow. True story.

So after much sleeping and facebooking, I made a list of top 5 things to do in a three month vacation to fight boredom. They are not exactly risky but its betteer than being a couch potato.

  1. Reconnect with your friends and spend the afternoons having lunch, picnics, go for swimming and whatever else you can think of.
  2. find a hobby, it doesn’t matter what it is as long as it doesn’t bore you.
  3. Start a blog, preferably one that will enable you to go outside and take pictures and interact with people.
  4. Get a fun part time Job, like maybe modeling or working in a circus. But if you dont mind any job really can do. Juat make sure it doesnt take up too much of your vacation time.
  5. If you are single, a vacation fling is not such a bad idea. You get to go out,  look good, be in the company of a cutie and have fun all at the same time.

Obsessed With Hair

29 Jan

fiveImagine you had really hard kinky and not so sexy hair, you know the kind that makes you want to always wear a hat or a scalf what would you do? Well do what I


do, two words “HAIR EXTENSIONS’ or  if you are like the other people who think hair

extensions are gross and would rather die than do it, well you can always just perm your hair and make it more manageable. but again if you are a nature freak and would rather cut off your toe than put chemicals in your hair, then I am sorry I dont know what I can tell you.

This post is about my insane obsession with trying out different hairstyle and seeing how different each makes me look and feel. Well ofcourse my mom hates it when I do weaves and stuff but she doesnt understand how difficult it is to manage and maintain my seven


own hair. Not only that but i have really sensitive hair, if that is even possible. A week of constantly combing it and it starts falling out and goes back to being short again. it is frustrating.

I would like to type more but I havent blogged in so long I fear my poor grammar will start showing and I will end up making a total fool of myself, so I have decided to just post pictures of myseff and hope that will give an idea of what I am talking about. Some of them are pictures of me with my natural hair ofcourse. You can tell me if you agree with my mom or if extensions win.






7 Apr

Well as I said in an old blog entry of mine A PASSION FOR FASHION, you can  follow the link to read it (   https://dorcamis.wordpress.com/2012/03/20/a-passion-for-fashion/  ), me and my elder sister Patricia decided to make some dresses. Today I am pleased to say that we are done and it is my utmost pleasure to blog about them and share them with you guys ( the ones that read my blog..thanks by the way).

Well you can tell me what you think of them and please tell your designer friends or boutique owner friends about us ( that would be so cool 😀 ) who knows we might just make it in the fashion world some day. But for now, selling them to my neighbours and the people around will be enough 🙂




MY ALPHABET GUIDE – Positive and happy Living from A to Z.

2 Apr

Okay now before you even start thinking it, no I am not a guru, I am not a trained life coach or anything even close to that. I am not even a motivational speaker (though I wish I was). I am just a person, (up to now I still do not know if I should keep calling myself a girl or if it is young woman now, maybe its lady…i do not know). Anyway yes I am just a person that likes to think a lot, and during one of those thought trips, I ended up thinking about why I let the simplest of things get to me.

Recent events in my life have made me realise that it is not fair treating everybody badly because one person has offended me. I was also thinking that just because my life is not going exactly as I planned, that should not be reason for me to spend the whole day in bed in a sulky mood hating everyone and everything. Not saying anything to anyone and one bad word away from losing my mind and constantly on the verge of breaking down in tears.

Well suffice it to say, I decided I was not going to let the small things or even big things dictate my life and how much I enjoy it anymore. I was going to go after happiness and grab it by force if I have to.There is always something to be happy about no matter how shitty life seems.

With all that said, I thought I will use the alphabet to help me achieve this…those A to Z self help things always seem cool and I wanted one as well.
I hope by the end of It all I will be one happy and positive person. If you want you can adopt it too.

-ALWAYS look to God no matter how simple or complicated life is. Prayer and having faith in Him always gives a feeling of hope and happiness.

-BREAK FREE of relationships that never bring you happiness.

-CREATE friendships with people that understand you and make you smile.

-DON’T let one bad experience prevent you from getting back on your feet and living a happy life.


-ENJOY each day like it is your last but do not get reckless and end up in hospital or the grave yard.


-FORGET the past, looking back at what once was will just get in the way of you appreciating what you have now.


-GREET each hurdle that comes your way as a way of making you stronger.


-HAVING difficulty letting go of something that should be forgotten is not going to make you happy. If something hurt you, for not more than a day, “cry yourself a river, build a bridge and GET OVER IT”. thinking about it all the time isnt really helping anyone.


-INVEST your time in doing things that make you happy. Go out, take up sports, start cooking, do anything as long as at the end of the day, you will be with a smile on your face.


-JOKE, JOKE, JOKE, Joking always makes everybody laugh and helps you forget about the things getting you down.


– KEEP the people you care about and who care about you close.


-LET GO of grudges. being bitter about things long gone is only going to hurt one person..YOU.


-MIND the people you let into your life. Some people bring nothing but pain and sadness with them.


-NEVER let anyone dictate  your life and and tell you that you are not worth anything.


-OPTING TO smile and believing that you are incharge of your own happiness is probably the best decision you will make.


-PUTTING your happiness in someone else’s hands is never a good idea, sooner or later they might ‘lose’ it.


-QUITTING on life when it gets hard is never the answer. Pick yourself up and find a reason to live.


-REMIND yourself that you are an amazing person worthy of being happy no matter what people tell you.


-SEARCH for a reason to smile whenever things do not work out for you. If you can not find anything, touch your chest and feel the beat of your heart, there is a reason you are alive. This is just a minor set back.


-TRYING to compare your life and who you are to someone else will only bring you sadness. You are who you are..UNIQUE, and people love you for that. Do not wish you were living someone else’s life.


-UNDERSTANDING that it is impossible for everyone to like you and what you do and knowing that some people are naturally ‘haters’, who will never appreciate a good thing, will help you to avoid situations where you stop living your life because you are worried what people will think. Don’t let what people say control how you live your life, because in the end only one person will not be happy, and that person is you.


-VALUE the things that you have been blessed with. You just never know how much less some people have.


-WHAT you ask for is exactly WHAT you get. If you order a cheese burger in a food joint, you will be given a cheese burger, hence in life if you adopt Positive thinking, positive things will happen to you. Be positive.


-‘XPECT and believe that even when reach your lowest point in life, it always gets better. It is just a passsing phase and you will rise again. (okay, I couldnt think of a word which starts with an X okay, I winged it)


-“YESTERDAY is history, Tomorrow a mystery, Today is a gift, That’s why it is called the present” So Be happy in the time that you are sure you have. Life is too short to spend being filled with negativity and a bad mood.


-ZAP yourself back to reality whenever you stray off day dreaming for too long. Even when life gets unbearable, try to find you way back to reality. Like Albus Dumbledore said – “it does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live”


After coming up with all these, I now have them stuck in my head, I hope It helps because I am really tired of all the depressing days feeling sorry for myself and ruining the mood around the house. And if you are reading this and you feel like maybe you let people or other things get you down easily alot of times, I do hope this helps and that you will try to live a happier and positive life.


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